Single Mama Rocking Aloha

tootie and daddy

My man was raised by a single-mama with a ginormous heart who “lives aloha”.

You know how there are people that you’d rather suffer almost any fate then dare to ask them for anything? You know them, I know you do, and if you’re like me, you kick yourself every time you set yourself up for an emotional sabotage by one of these individuals..

Well, on the flip side of the coin are the people that you could call anytime of the day or night and they’d be there for you in a heartbeat – whatever you need.

Well, my Mother-in-Law, hereafter referred to as Tootsie, she’s the latter type of person. She’s rock solid and you can count on her to be there for you without attitude or strings attached.

Tootsie raised three boys, all wonderful God-fearing men today, as a solo parent.  She’s got the fruit on the tree and that counts for A LOT in my book.

In honor of Mother’s Day, here’s a great Tootsie story…

She and her three boys moved into a two bedroom apartment. One of her boys really needed space as a teenager so she gave him his own bedroom. The other two boys shared a room.  And Tootsie? Tootsie slept on the floor in the living room.

I was deeply moved when she shared this with me.

It’s such a great example of living love. She was in tune to the needs of her kids and came up with a creative solution that involved willing personal sacrifice.

She wasn’t doing this out of martyrdom. If so it would have been dysfunctional and all those around her would have been caught in the crossfire of bitter actions and subtle non-verbal sideswipes.

She was truly “living aloha”.

“Aloha” is a word synonymous with Hawaii. Most people think of it as a way to say “hello”, “goodbye”, or “love”. But it’s so much more. It’s a philosophy and governing way of life that was a gift to Hawaii, and the world, by the Native Hawaiians.

I can’t say it any better than it’s stated in Hawaii’s official Definition of Aloha Spirit.

“Aloha” means mutual regard and affection and extends warmth in caring with no obligation in return.

“Aloha” is the essence of relationships in which each person is important to every other person for collective existence.

“Aloha” means to hear what is not said, to see what cannot be seen and to know the unknowable.


Thank you, Tootsie for truly living aloha. You are a treasure.

Hannah Bader

Homeschooling, mompreneur enjoying the pursuit of health, wealth, and wisdom! Loving my man for 20+ years and mama to three boys who love to go fast.

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