Dirty Rider – You’re Gonna Get It!
Sometimes you share a truth with your kids and in the moment, since it’s a big, complicated truth, like, “What comes around goes around,” or “You reap what you sow,” only the barest tip of the truth is visible and it does little-to-nothing to console. That’s where time sets in and does its part.
Choice upon choice and a life unfolds as the accumulation of moments, attitudes, and experiences.
Throughout the past five years our sons have rolled off dusty BMX tracks heavy hearted, frustrated, and disappointed from photo-finishes that time and time again go to the other rider or fuming over some kid who rides like a punk and is egged on from the sidelines by equally annoying adults.
The State Championship BMX race is always fraught with emotion for our family.
Sure it’s the biggest race of the season in Oregon but for the past four years it has also represented the count down to saying goodbye to the sport they love, their bikes, the tracks, and our Oregon ohana as we head back to Hawaii.
This year it’s different. We’re in gypsy mode and will be staying longer on the Mainland. This year’s race didn’t feel so monumental as if desperately needing it to be wonderful enough to last them the full eight months until they return.
With this shift in perspective suddenly it was like watching a very slow moving movie that started years ago. We saw characters around us harvesting their fruit. Some have baskets overflowing with shiny, beautiful, scrumptious bounty. Others are smashing withered, rotten, and bitter-looking fruit into the ground.
Time has past and the choices have piled up.
Riders who quit, bullies on the track, sandbaggers, kids with great big hearts pouring their all into every pump, good-sports, bad-sports, and every type of character flickering across this life-size screen. So many examples of how choices we make play out in the long run.
Kids are practicing for real life when they’re involved in activities. Please remember that as you offer your opinion of how a child you care about should conduct themselves in their chosen sport, hobby, or ambition.
My baby boy said talking about some of the riders,
If they don’t win, they lose.”
Take a second and let that sink in. Don’t know about you, but in my experience, it’s taken a lot of struggle, conflict, overcoming challenges, AND losing for me to win. That’s just life, Friends, let’s help our kids win even when they’re “losing.”
As for the cheaters, bullies, and punks? Well, here’s some unsolicited words from me to you…
Sometimes when you win – you really lose, it’s just going to take some time to catch up to you but rest assured, Dirty Rider, you’re gonna get it.”